But I have had one very special prayer request since 2006. I am in the midst of seeing this dream/prayer coming true! However, God is answering it in a way that I would have never dreamed! It involves a very,very dear friend! I can honestly call her a "best friend". She has been my support, encouragement, confidant, listening ear etc. you get what type of friend I am talking about!
Meet my dear friend, Lorelei!
Lorelei and her husband, Rick have had a desire to be parents for a
Ah not true...actually they have been trying to be parents for a LONG 7years!
Their journey to parenthood has not been the "normal" journey. They found out about 6 years ago that there were some fertility problems. They were told the best way for them to have a baby was through In vitro Fertilisation. They only had a 1-5% chance of ever conceiving naturally. So, their journey with fertility treatment began.
In 2006 they signed up for 3 tries with In-vetro. Their first try was in the winter of 2006 and it was exciting and shocking news! "Congratulations! You are pregnant... with TRIPLETS!"
YIKES! WOW! WHAT???!
About the time that the realization had sunk in that they would be parents of 3 babies, tragedy occurred! At just 20 weeks-God took the triplet boys home. As any parent can imagine it was devastating! And yes, this long awaited dream was shattered...and continued to grow heavier on their hearts!
They grieved and grieved and grieved. But they dealt with the loss of the boys amazingly well. They participated in a support group, reached out to others in the same situation, shared their story with others and pressed on! Yet, never once have we forgotten their boys. We still have moments where we talk about them and wonder what they would be like. We look forward to meeting them in Heaven again.Their second try for a baby took place last year and there was no success. (sigh).
They were planning to try for their 3rd and final try in the spring of this year.
BUT God did the "IMPOSSIBLE!"
(Do you have goose bumps yet? You know what I am about to write?!)
They got pregnant on their own in Feb!
God IS the God of Miracles. Ephesians 3:20 "Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen." This is just one way I think God shows his power by answering this BIG prayer! This has been my "other" dream/ prayer since we became friends in 2006! I have longed for her to be a mommy (and Rick a daddy).
Lorelei is my friend that is: so self sacrificing, drops her plans to help me when she can, nurtures my own boys when the are in her care, accepts them almost as her own, spoils them like CRAZY, and loves them. Never once has she shown resentment toward me for having babies. Often friends can get so envious of what the other has. Not Lorelei!
Her love and care for our boys has been so special to us! Not having family around has been easier on us because they have filled that gap.
Well, there is MORE News!
Here is the BIG Prayer Request:
They just had their 20 week visit and it is a BOY due on 10/31!
BUT-they got some
Little Baby Boy, Hoeye has Spina Bifida
What? A medical illness?
OK! Rewind~Didn't I just share that this is my dream for my friend to just be a mommy and finally have a baby? I did! And I have been praying for this prayer for 4 years! I guess I wasn't clear with God! I meant a Healthy, Perfect baby!
Ah-God heard my prayers. I know he did! He answered in HIS time!
Jeremiah 33:3 'Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.'
This is all part of HIS plan!
Oh-right. God's ways are not always our ways!
(Easier to hear then often to live).
Wow~this is a little angel that is perfect in God's eyes!
Baby Hoeye has been knit perfectly together in his mommy's belly. God already has his whole life planned. ~Psalm 139:13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.
He does not no any other life. His life is perfect and in God's eyes he IS perfect!
Psalm 145 talks about the Lord being good to all he has created; and the passage ALSO talks about the Lord hearing our cry.
It is a very comforting passage to me at this time. I am just her friend, and though I am not going through it-I am still on this journey and want to be of support to her!
Well, their 20 week appointment did not give them the news that they or anyone would want to hear!
Lorelei posted an article on her FB page that talks about what it is like to have a child with special needs!This is somewhat what is happening to their dream...and they are accepting it, getting ready to move on and give Baby Hoeye the best world that they can give him!
(Here is the article)
Welcome to Holland
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability – to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this…
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip – to Italy. You buy a bunch of guidebooks and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum, the Michelangelo David, the gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!" you say. "What do you mean, Holland?" I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy.
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to some horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy a new guidebook. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around, and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills, Holland has tulips, Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy, and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life you will say, "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
The pain of that will never, ever, go away, because the loss of that dream is a very significant loss.
But if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things about Holland.
Written by Emily Perl Kingsley
I feel SO inadequate at times, because my life does seem so perfect (yet it is far from it) compared to her world! Lorelei reassures me that I am doing everything I can do for her. It is just a healing process and a waiting window now.
Today, they are seeing the neurosurgeon who will be performing surgery on their little boy! I am praying that the news is not more severe then last week!
Will you please sign up here and commit to pray for Baby Hoeye and his family?
I will keep you posted on their journey.
Feel free to share this prayer with others and Link them to this sign up list!
I would love to have 24 prayer warriors for the 24 hours in the day.
She is in the midst of working on a blog, but is still going through the emotions and shocking news.
In the meantime, you can look her and Rick up on FB *(Lorelei-Lori Oates Hoeye/Rick Hoeye) or send her and Rick a card.
If you want their address or email please contact me and I will get it to you!
I only know that God wants me to be a comfort and support for her. It is my job to pray and I am seeking some special prayer warriors for them! I know that some of you have been in their shoes!
Thank you in advance to those of you who have been praying for them.
I will continue to keep you updated on their journey.
Thanks for letting me share a dream and a BIG Prayer request.
Keep following our blog for an update on Baby Hoeye!
( and the Hoeyes too!)